It really isn’t. Some people may try to rush you by telling you things like “you only have until you’re 35 before…” or discourage you by saying something like, “Aren’t you a little old for that?” I would like to challenge our thinking about age and expectation. Maybe there are age limits, but if you legally are not being stopped, then the only obsticale is yourself.
Allow me to explain with a simple and relatable example: walking. Most everyone can walk. Most people learn to do it in early childhood. Everybody has their own way of doing it, but they walk. They get the job done.
It’s what we expect most people to be able to do.
If you were a child who learned to walk early, people would say you were extraordinary and shower you with praise and show off your new ability to the other children who weren’t walking yet. So you have some bumps and bruises, you’re walking. The same with success. Those who achieve early are considered extraordinary and seen as examples of what we all should strive to be. Most don’t look too closely at the details.
If you were a child who walked at about the time you were expected to (which is most children), you were considered average. Nevermind the fact that you almost never fell over or bumped into things. With success, most people fall here. They become successful around their thirties or forties, and no one really bats an eye. They say that is what we expect to happen. You should have some amount of financial/career stability and socoal responsibility.
If you were that child that learned to walk late in life, your parents and caretakers were probably worried. They may have fretted over you, or they may have given up hope of you ever walking if you were late enough. When you finally did, everyone breathed a sigh of relief, and they all knew you could do it. This is where more people fall than I think society would like to admit. These “late bloomers” are usually those people who devote their energies to some other task like education or raising children. They are also the ones, I feel, are the most often discouraged. If you are able to take care of the responsibilities you have, there is no reason why you cannot use some of your reserve energy to accomplish something you’ve dreamed of doing.
In each of the walking examples, I would like for you to think about an actual human being. The reason I say this is to enforce the fact that time isn’t the issue here. The only difference is the tools (in this case the brain and muscles) that each hypothetical child had to work with.
In the early walker, the mind was ready, but the muscles were not. That’s why they had the bumps and bruises. Similarly, if you move too fast, you must be ready for a rough path (maybe less sleep or family time).
In the regular walker, the mind and the body were ready. You can think of this as laying a good foundation and careful preparation for the tasks ahead. In this way, you build over time and smooth out the bumps in the road.
In the late walker, the body is ready, but the mind is not. Think of it as you are too focused on other tasks or maybe even afraid to try. You may be behind, but that doesn’t mean you cannot reach your full potential.
None of the walkers are better than the others
While it may be preferable to be an early walker, for example, are you or were you mature enough to make the sacrifices needed to get to where you wanted to be? Everybody has their own time and season and it is better that people “walk” at different times or else people would retire at the same time. It keeps things fresh and activity flowing.
I say all that to say, people think that being an adult is all about responsibility, but maybe it doesn’t have to be. Adulthood can also be your chance to explore the things you dreamed of as a kid. It’s even becoming possible for regular people to go into outer space!
Dare to dream again!